Why talk?

If you’re suffering from testosterone deficiency it isn’t just your problem, it also affects your partner and your entire relationship.

Sex is a key part of a man’s life, so when you are having difficulties getting and/or maintaining an erection, you may withdraw physically. When this happens, you may avoid showing affection towards your partner because you don’t want it to lead to sex. You may even withdraw emotionally because you feel you cannot worry your partner about your problems. However, this can make your partner feel rejected, unloved and sad, as they may think that you don’t find them attractive any more or that you’ve found someone else.

A better solution is to be open about it and tell your partner that you’re suffering from symptoms of low testosterone. This will make you both feel better as it will remove feelings of guilt and blame. It’s a team effort, not something you need to do all alone.

Talking to your doctor

CONCERNED ABOUT TALKING TO YOUR DOCTOR? Read our tips on talking to your doctor about your symptoms

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Talk to your partner

Choose a time when you’re both rested, relaxed - and sober!
Make sure you won’t be distracted or interrupted.

Begin simply: “I’m worried about my part in our love life”- or show your partner this website

Explain the symptoms you are experiencing and what you are worried about

Tell your partner what/how you feel, so they can sympathise

Reassure your partner that you’re not blaming them and that you still care for them

Explain what you’d like to do, so they know you’ve a solution in mind

Tell your partner what you need them to do, so they are aware of how to support you


  • Take some time to think about how low testerone has affected you.
  • Consider how this in turn may be affecting your partner.
  • Think about how your relationship has changed since your erection problems began.
  • Take time to think through how to mention the subject to your partner. Then set aside some time to talk.
  • Pick up the phone and book that appointment with your doctor.
  • Bring your partner to the appointment if possible. If not, bring a notebook so you can write down what the doctor told you.

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